Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Every Teardrop...

…is a waterfall. There are days that are very overwhelming. It’s difficult to keep moving forward, to stay positive, no matter how hard you try. It takes a lot of work to get through and past these bad days. They seem completely unbearable and can be spirit crushing.

Alternately, it could be a small thing that sets you off, turns the tide, or pushes you in another direction. It seems like some force or forces are working against you in every possible area in your life. Everyone has days like I am talking about; you keep taking stuff in, trying to figure it out, nothing is working – it’s exhausting. You keep fighting back tears, trying not to get overwhelmed, and it’s impossible.

That’s when to have a good cry, and it’s more than okay. One of those blubbery, can’t talk, sobbing, hard to breathe, cleansing cries. It doesn’t really matter what it is that brings it on; that’s personal. What matters is that you let it come. The most important thing is to take the few minutes and let it all out. Sob away; let all that pain, sadness, and fear – go. Cry your eyes out, and wallow in that self pity that belongs only to you at that minute. Let it flow out with every blow of your nose. Alone or with a friend, the relief that you feel at the end is exuberating, liberating, and freeing. It’s not limited to the female humans either; something tells me that men could use a good cry sometimes, too.

When you are finished (you will know when you have had enough), dry your face, take a few deep breaths, remember why you are here, and move on. You will probably feel a little tired and wrung out, look a little blotchy and puffy, but you will likely feel a whole lot of relief too. Shedding those tears and letting go of the burden will help you to regenerate that positivity and help you continue on your path.

 I have indulged myself in a good cry a little more often than usual lately. I am working hard, taking care of my kids, myself, and trying to get through what the world around me is dishing out. I have plans, dreams, and goals that I have set for myself and my future that are worth the pain that I experience. The pain is part of the growing process.  Let the water fall…you might actually be glad that you did…with love…

Friday, September 23, 2011

A Moment...

...changes everything.  A flash, a fleeting, brief instant where you have a choice to make, and you go with your instinct. That moment seems quick and painless, most of the time. The repercussions of that small measure of time can be minor, or it can be huge. You can’t predict the outcome – good or bad.

It takes a moment to make someone smile or cry. A moment to decide – are you in or out? A moment is an opportunity to make the choice to forgive and forget. It’s a split second that can change the direction or the course of your day or your life.  There can be a thought process that has weighed heavily on your mind until you get to the moment. It can be something that comes up and you don’t have the luxury of time to think about it, you just do it. Impulsive or contemplated, those moments are important, and I need to be more conscious of them.

Sometimes, it seems like we have plenty of those fragments of life, of choice; at other times, they seem very fleeting and precious. We should try not to take them for granted. There are moments to enjoy, and there are some we regret. There are times where we wish we could have a “do over,” take a different direction. We can’t get them back, but there are generally more right around the corner.

Take a chance, take that moment, and run with it. Make the choice, and try to live without regrets. A moment changes everything…or nothing…with love.